PromptTell a story about a time you got what you wanted but it didn’t work out well for you.

There have been times I’ve got what i wanted and been immensely grateful, and there have been times when it hasn’t worked out so well but what comes to mind is slightly different to either of these. These are the times when I haven’t got what I wanted at all.

Many years ago I was in a relationship that ended and I was particularly heartbroken, only to look back later and be divinely grateful, left with a curious WTF was I thinking? Really!!

There have been times I’ve wanted relationships to work and yet being on my own has been one of the most beautiful experiences for me. Times I’ve wanted business to leap forward and yet it has often been during the times that I’ve struggled most that I’ve grown beyond anything I could have imagined.

As I think about it, so often when I haven’t got what I’ve wanted, I’ve eventually found something much, much better. It’s almost like a homing device, directing me toward what I do want. At the time I’m usually frustrated, arguing with the divine… to just please give me what I want… right now, or ok possibly tomorrow!

And only later am I grateful for receiving exactly what I didn’t ask for and definitely didn’t want, at the time.

I took my first trip to India after the end of a long relationship, and I fell in love again, with myself, and the country. It was a whole new beginning that led to travel, adventure, and friendships… some profound, others not, but all beautiful in their own way.

Without a whole series of not getting what I wanted I wouldn’t have so much of what I love and value in my life now.

I’m sure other stuff would have happened but I’m not sure it would have been so much fun! That first trip to India was to train as an NLP trainer; I took a leap into the unknown and learned so much, and possibly laughed even more! I wasn’t an entirely happy bunny when I made the decision to go but it felt right. Rationally it didn’t make a whole lot of sense but deep down I knew it was the right thing for me.

I often hear similar things from clients, how sometimes not getting what they wanted was what opened them up to something new whether NLP, coaching, or something else.. and how it made all the difference. How they received so much more, than if they’d simply got what they thought they wanted in the first place!

So here’s to love, laughter, not always getting what you want, and your very next adventure… whatever that may be!


If you’re curious, and would like to know more about NLP or coaching, you can email me lesley@lesleymcdonald.co.uk  or until the challenge ends on Friday, you can schedule a conversation with me here.